If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right - for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.-Keirsey & Bates (1984)
"One true sign of adulthood is the ability to hold a broad range of emotions inside and still function. As life happens, we react with some degree of pleasure or pain, perhaps a blend of the two. And while we all share the same repertoire of emotions, what sets us apart from another is the extent to which we can hold them inside, identify them correctly, and then act or not act in a way that best serves our interests" -Charles Spezzano
Friday, June 29, 2007
Especially, for you
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